Reformed alcoholics dating holland dating and friendship 2016
As long as I'm not using and we're not using and are in a program, I'm safe. Getting into an intimate relationship prematurely is, as my mother would say, "Ill-conceived, ill-advised and ill-consummated." Odds are more than fifty percent of marriages will end in divorce for the general population.
Want to venture a guess as to the odds for those in early recovery who test this cardinal rule Despite one's best laid plans or intentions to not re-enact the same dysfunction and failures of previous relationships, the odds are overwhelmingly against the relationship -- doomed to be dysfunctional or have a shortened life expectancy.
If it was someone I already knew, maybe not very well but at least a little bit, then I would be more likely to consider it.
If I could tell they were serious about recovering then if I got in a relationship with them I would do everything I could to help them out and enable them to recover fully.
Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but assuming that we would not want our emotional and mental well-being to hinge on a miracle, is it worth the risk?
But this is not what the recovering addict is thinking about.
Recovering addicts hear this all the time in 12-step programs.
However, this sound bit of wisdom is rarely heeded.
It would make me so sad to see someone relapse into their old ways having taken so many steps to start getting better. It is possibly slightly selfish to look at it this way, but sometimes you have to be realistic about what you are willing to put yourself through... On the surface, things are deceptively simple – a person is choosing to rid their lives of alcohol for the betterment of everyone around them.It’s much deeper than that, though, and often involves a life filled with choice and temptation.If it was someone I had met for the first time I would not enter in to a relationship so easily and would be quite weary until I had got to know them better.I would appreciate their honesty in telling me about their past problems and be encouraging and supportive but wouldn't get too close.